Why I Quit Writing About it

next chapterMemaw relished the opportunity to talk about her ailments. A retired nurse, she never shied from adjusting her clothing to display a scar or bruise.

Years after the surgeries, her knee replacement and appendectomy remained favorite topics for conversation. Her social circle and any unfortunate stranger who found themselves within reach of her voice knew, within minutes, all the bloody, painful details of her long lifetime of illness and injury.

Every Thanksgiving, whenever conversation slowed, Memaw would look at the de-fleshed ham bone resting on its Blue Willow platter and launch her knee replacement story. After dessert, she enjoyed a round of show-and-tell. An enormous bruise on her hip, we’ve seen it. Ditto the appendix scar. We somehow escaped the sight of her long-bemoaned hemorrhoids, probably due to the enormous effort it would’ve taken to wriggle out of her girdle.

I love that girdle.

Memaw has been gone quite a few years, but the scent of boiled cabbage always brings her right back. I’m glad she didn’t live to see me fall apart a few years ago. She cherished her own health issues, but would’ve suffered at the sight of her grand-daughter’s “withered arm.”
I understand that as a person ages their world’s blueprint shrinks a bit, and sometimes the ups and downs of health are the only variations in every-day life.

My life’s blueprint continues to expand.

Not long ago a friend fussed at me for neglecting my stroke-recovery blog, said they missed reading my rambles. Unlike Memaw, the topic of my calamitous health scare has grown tiresome. I’ve moved on. I no longer think of myself as “recovering.”

I’m too busy living.

About Vic Cobb Fountain

Empowered Stroke survivor: appreciating where I've been, anticipating where I'm going.
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9 Responses to Why I Quit Writing About it

  1. Anonymous says:

    Good for you, Vic. Hope you can make it back to OK one of these days. Proud of you.

  2. nancyhartney says:

    You continue to be a role model for each of us and especially we writers. Keep up the drum beat.

  3. barb0803 says:

    I think I will consider myself “recovering” forever. It’s 9 years after; I still acknowledge my anniversary, but rarely mention it until a couple of days before. I never bring up the topic, but am fine talking about it if someone else brings it up. I still write my recovery blog – but that’s optional for people to read, so I’m not forcing anyone to listen.

  4. oc1dean says:

    I’m certainly not disabled, I’ve given up on any semblance of rehab. Life takes precedence, including my last trip to Portugal and Spain.

    • I am also back to traveling- Scotland and Ireland last year, Croatia via Ireland next summer. Edinburgh was a challenge no one tells you some streets are ancient stone stairs without handrails. Croatia will be the same. My sweetheart works double time when we travel. Couldn’t do it without him. Thanks for reading. Charge on!

  5. Toni Carter says:

    Sweetheart I just saw this post! Just now! Omg it’s lovely and so true! I love you for your gorgeous writing. I love you even more for being a positive force in this old world.

    Sent from my iPhone


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